QUESTION: Assalamualaikum, My question is about theoretically if we die n go to heaven, could we meet our dead ex husband?

I had a very close relationship like brother and sister after we divorced 12 years ago, after that he married n divorced his second wife before he passed away on 2009 , 4 years ago. (He wanted to marry me again back then before he married his second wife but our situation was complicated as he pronounced “talaq 3”)

For me I didn’t marry since our divorced 12 years ago. His death was a shocked to me n it took me 1 year to stop crying. I realized after his death that I still loved him…. N wish him to be my husband in the hereafter . Life goes on but I cannot forget him at times I wish that I could meet him in afterlife. Is that wrong ? N would I be his wife again theoretically if we are meant for heaven.

If there is a possibility that in hereafter we can meet again as husband and wife I don’t want to get marry again in this world.  As I have rejected 4 times proposal as my heart is not into it. And if I do get married again with another man n if I die who will be my partner or husband in. – Anonymous, Singapore

*ENGLISH ANSWER: 

عَنْ حُذَيْفَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّهُ قَالَ لِامْرَأَتِهِ: إِنْ شِئْتِ أَنْ تَكُونِي زَوْجَتِي فِي الْجَنَّةِ، فَلَا تَزَوَّجِي بَعْدِي، فَإِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ لِآخِرِ أَزْوَاجِهَا فِي الدُّنْيَا…(السنن الكبرى للبيهقي/ج7/ص111)

Narrated by Huzaifa may Allah be pleased with him, he said to his wife: If you wish to be my wife in Paradise, do not get married after me, the women in paradise is with her last husband in the world.

أيُّمَا امْرَأةٍ تَوَفّي عَنْها زَوْجُها فَتَزَوَّجَتْ بَعْدَهُ فَهِيَ لآِخِرِ أزْوَاجِها

أخرجه الطبراني عَن أبي الدَّرْدَاء (فيض القدير شرح الجامع الصغير/ج3/ص151)

Any woman whose husband died & got married after that, she will be with her last husband.

No person in Paradise will live without a partner as narrated by Imam Muslim in one Hadith that says: No single person in Paradise.

مَا فِي الْجَنَّةِ أَعْزَبُ شرح النووي على مسلم. 2834/ج17/ص171

So far I have not met with a statement says his divorced wife could not be together with her ex-husband (in the world) in Paradise. In fact, Allah swt even gives an opportunity for the people of Paradise to ask whatever they want, as Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Quran

“لَهُمْ مَا يَشَاءُونَ عِنْدَ رَبِّهِمْ ذَلِكَ جَزَاءُ الْمُحْسِنِينَ.” الزمر:34)

They will have whatever they desire with their Lord. That is the reward of the doers of good.

“نَحْنُ أَوْلِياؤُكُمْ فِي الْحَياةِ الدُّنْيا وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ وَلَكُمْ فِيها مَا تَشْتَهِي أَنْفُسُكُمْ وَلَكُمْ فِيها مَا تَدَّعُونَ” (فصلت:31)

We were your allies in the worldly life and in the Hereafter. And you will have therein whatever your souls desire, and you will have therein whatever you request

لَهُمْ مَا يَشَاءُونَ فِيهَا وَلَدَيْنَا مَزِيدٌ. (ق:35)

They will have whatever they wish therein, and with Us is more.

Based on the above sentences, no offense for a person to ask for what he/she wants after being in Paradise including requesting to choose their mates unless she is the woman who has become someone’s wife.

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JAWAPAN BAHASA MELAYU:

عَنْ حُذَيْفَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّهُ قَالَ لِامْرَأَتِهِ: إِنْ شِئْتِ أَنْ تَكُونِي زَوْجَتِي فِي الْجَنَّةِ، فَلَا تَزَوَّجِي بَعْدِي، فَإِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ لِآخِرِ أَزْوَاجِهَا فِي الدُّنْيَا…(السنن الكبرى للبيهقي/ج7/ص111)

Diriwayatkan bahawa Huzaifah r.a. pernah berkata kepada isterinya: “Sekiranya engkau mahu jadi isteriku disyurga, maka janganlah engkau berkahwin selepas kematianku kerana seorang wanita itu akan berada didalam syurga bersama suaminya yang terakhir di dunia.”

أيُّمَا امْرَأةٍ تَوَفّي عَنْها زَوْجُها فَتَزَوَّجَتْ بَعْدَهُ فَهِيَ لآِخِرِ أزْوَاجِها

أخرجه الطبراني عَن أبي الدَّرْدَاء (فيض القدير شرح الجامع الصغير/ج3/ص151)

Dari sebuah riwayat yang dikeluarkan oleh At-Thabarani: “Mana-mana wanita yang kematian suaminya kemudian bernikah selepas itu, maka beliau adalah milik suaminya yang terakhir( didunia).”

Tiada seseorang pun di dalam syurga akan tinggal tanpa pasangan sepertimana yang diriwayatkan oleh Imam Muslim sebuah hadith yang berbunyi: “Tiada orang yang bujang didalam Syurga.”

مَا فِي الْجَنَّةِ أَعْزَبُ شرح النووي على مسلم. 2834/ج17/ص171

Setakat ini saya belum jumpa Nas yang mengatakan isteri yang diceraikan tidak dapat bersama bekas suaminya ketika di dunia untuk bersamanya di syurga. Bahkan Allah s.w.t memberi peluang bagi ahli syurga untuk meminta apa sahaja yang mereka inginkan sepertimana firman Allah ta’ala di dalam Al-Quran:

“لَهُمْ مَا يَشَاءُونَ عِنْدَ رَبِّهِمْ ذَلِكَ جَزَاءُ الْمُحْسِنِينَ.” الزمر:34)

“Disediakan untuk mereka apa yang mereka kehendaki di sisi Tuhan mereka;

Demikianlah balasan orang-orang yang berusaha memperbaiki amal perbuatannya.” (Surah Az-Zumar:34)

“نَحْنُ أَوْلِياؤُكُمْ فِي الْحَياةِ الدُّنْيا وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ وَلَكُمْ فِيها مَا تَشْتَهِي أَنْفُسُكُمْ وَلَكُمْ فِيها مَا تَدَّعُونَ” (فصلت:31)

“Kamilah penolong-penolong kamu dalam kehidupan dunia dan pada hari akhirat;

dan kamu akan beroleh – pada hari akhirat – apa yang diingini oleh nafsu kamu, serta kamu akan beroleh – pada hari itu – apa yang kamu cita-citakan mendapatnya.” (Surah Fussilat:31)

لَهُمْ مَا يَشَاءُونَ فِيهَا وَلَدَيْنَا مَزِيدٌ. (ق:35)

“Mereka beroleh apa yang mereka kehendaki di situ, dan di sisi Kami ada lagi tambahan (limpah kurnia yang tidak terlintas di hati mereka).” (Surah Qaaf:35)

Berdasarkan ayat-ayat disebutkan ini, tiada kesalahannya bagi seseorang itu untuk meminta apa yang beliau kehendaki setelah berada di dalam syurga apatah lagi meminta dari Allah ta’ala untuk memilih pasangannya sendiri melainkan apa yang diminta itu ialah wanita yang sudah menjadi isteri seseorang.

*Please note that the summary/translation is written by admin M.A.

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